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a culture of giving: Donors of Ashby Village

  

betty webster

"it's a joy!"

By Charli Depner

"It is a joy to give where you feel genuinely appreciated" says Betty Webster, who has  contributed to Ashby Village in many ways since its planning stages. Betty first learned about  the Village Movement in a San Francisco Chronicle article about Boston’s Beacon Hill Village.  She remembers thinking “Oh, this is just what I need!”. The availability of services made her feel  more comfortable in her home, especially when her husband, Bill was out of town on business.  Soon she was talking with a neighbor in Kensington about starting a village in their own  community. As they faced the daunting steps of establishing a village they heard that Ashby  Village was already starting.  

Betty attended a few Living Room Chats and she and her husband, Bill, joined in 2009 as  sponsors. Bill served as a professor of civil and environmental engineering, specializing in naval  architecture. He also served as the Cal’s first vice provost for academic planning and facilities  and travels the world consulting with universities from Thailand to Norway.  

In Ashby Village’s formative years, Betty organizational skills, honed in administration at Cal’s  Computer Science Department, were put to good use. She soon was asked to join the Board.  Over the years, Betty has served in several capacities, notably chairing the Membership  Committee in Ashby Village’s formative years, serving on an ad hoc committee on board  fellows, and facilitating the transition from an operational to policy board. Today she serves as  Secretary to the Board and also on the Governance Committee with Laura Peck, and is an enthusiastic member of the Events Team, Neighborhood Group Council and the Arts and Culture Group.  

When Betty and Bill recently decided to make a provision for Ashby Village in their trust they also decided to make a special gift now. “I really enjoy giving presents and love to see the  reaction of the recipient when the present is unwrapped. So, I thought, why wait? I could get to  see how this gift is received. Ashby Village was so very welcoming of my gift, that I was sure  that I did the right thing.”  

Reflecting on the evolution of Ashby Village, Betty says, “I joined Ashby Village with services  in mind; but I have come to realize that the main thing is community. It is great to know that  there are people out there who help each other, enjoy activities together, and form friendships.”  She is particularly proud that Ashby Village has emerged as “an open and accepting community”  where a high proportion of members also serve as volunteers. Betty’s contributions are  instrumental in creating this community and she is, indeed, greatly appreciated!  






 


Betty Webster


KRIS OWENS

By Karin Evans

Ashby Village Volunteer Kris Owens’ best-laid plans were to keep working at the job she loved—“until I died at my desk from the sheer pressure of my job at the age of maybe 69 or 70,” she says. Why not? It was a job she loved, managing a commercial escrow branch, all women, in the title insurance industry. “I totally enjoyed what I was doing. It was interesting, fascinating, nothing boring.” 

But then, at the age of 61, Kris was diagnosed with breast cancer. “It was totally a life-changing event for me. All of a sudden I realized, maybe I don’t have that much time, and maybe I don’t want to be doing this forever.” She went through treatment, recovered, and groomed a successor. 

At 64, she retired, with no intentions but to take it easy, enjoy life, and travel. Six months later, Kris had cleaned out all her drawers and was totally bored. Her oncologist, Lisa Bailey, M.D., suggested she come volunteer in the Carol Ann Read Breast Health Center, which Bailey had created, to help other women who were going through what Owens had been through. “I got really involved with that,” Kris says. “It made me feel good to help someone, and my only regret was that I didn’t have someone like me to help when I got cancer.” Kris volunteered there for two days a week, for three years. 

Just as she was casting about for something else to do, Owens was invited to an Ashby Village neighborhood chat at the Emeryville Watergate, near where she lives. She immediately signed up to volunteer. She did that “ferociously,” as she puts it, five days a week. She took members grocery shopping and to hair appointments, and she went to as many Village events, as she could—from yoga classes to luncheons. She loved everyone she met. 

After a year she became a member, as well as a volunteer, and began an even deeper involvement in the life of Ashby Village. After meeting one amazing 90-year-old after another, she realized how valuable the help of a MedPal could be. So she decided to take Marion Anderson’s MedPal course. “Then Marion asked me to join in her classes, and I would play the patient and she would play the doctor, and we would do some skits about what to do and not do,” says Kris. 

When Marion stepped down a few months ago, Kris was asked to take over the MedPal trainings. “I said, ‘I think you guys are crazy, but okay,’” she says with a laugh. “My only experience was with the breast cancer volunteer work. But I figured as long as I had the compassion and the enthusiasm and wanted to do it, I would.” 

The experience has turned out better than she could have imagined. “It’s surprising because my whole career was in a very contentious industry, working in a competitive, nasty business,” she says. “To survive that you have to be really aggressive and assertive. Compassion wasn’t even in my dictionary! “So this is a new part of my life,” says Kris. “Now I am totally, completely involved in Ashby Village and I think the concept is the greatest thing anyone has ever done for seniors. I love the idea.

In the past I have given money only to women’s causes, such as breast cancer organizations and Friends of Faith Fancher. Now Ashby Village will get all of my donations because they are local and the money stays here and it goes to the members and the staff and to the members who can’t afford the fee.

I think the staff are so fabulous and so dedicated, and I don’t know how they manage to do all they do. “I have never been involved in any organization that is as valuable as what they do at Ashby Village,” she continues. “I think all of the board members and the women who run different committees are just incredible.” And, she adds, “I am constantly trying to recruit people! Join up and you could do something every day for a year for just $750. You get so much! “For me it’s been really rewarding. I enjoy getting up in the morning and then I get in my car and I go out and do something for someone. There is more to life than just going on cruises and taking it easy.” Kris laughs. “I never thought I’d leave my career path, but here I am. I just love doing this.”  

 

Kris at the 90+ Tea Party - Photo by Richard Bermack
  

Martin paley

THInking about the future

– by Jan Corazza and Karin Evans

When long-time Bay Area civic leader Martin Paley addressed a group of Ashby Village members and friends this fall, asking everyone to think about the future and to think about how to make a positive commitment to that future, he spoke from deep experience.

As former Director of the San Francisco Foundation and later Executive Director of the San Francisco Library Foundation – where he is listed among the Library Heroes – Martin brings a broad understanding of how organizations are created and how they endure to his service on the Ashby Village Development Committee.

A Berkeley resident since the mid-1950s, when he attended UC Berkeley and received his Master’s in Public Health, Martin went on to become a prominent Bay Area and national foundation leader. As head of the San Francisco Foundation, he led a drive that boosted the Foundation’s assets substantially, allowing it to offer support to literally thousands of nonprofit organizations active in the arts, education, health, urban affairs, and the environment.

In the early 1990s, as Library Foundation Executive Director, Martin managed the extremely successful capital campaign to furnish the new San Francisco Main Library. Over the years he has also served as an advisor to Kaiser Permanente, KQED, the Alameda County Board of Supervisors, the Bernard Osher Foundation, and many other nonprofit and government agencies.

Closer to home, Martin was recently honored for his service to the Berkeley Community Fund, where he helped build and hone its mission. In 2011, Martin joined Ashby Village, and now brings his wealth of knowledge to his position as a member of the Development Committee. “Ashby Village has benefited greatly from Martin’s vast experience,” notes Executive Director Andy Gaines. “He is always focused on the fundamentals. As we begin our new Legacy Giving program, his insights and leadership are especially valuable.” “As a young organization,” Martin says, “we need to think about the future.

There’s no doubt that Ashby Village will be needed in the next five, ten, and twenty years as the elder population continues to grow. The question is, in addition to our support today, what steps do we take now to provide the resources for the future? How do we fulfill our commitment to the broader community of which Ashby Village is an increasingly important part?” Martin also observes, “It seems a natural part of the development of Ashby Village that the many members, volunteers, donors and other community friends would think about supporting the organization through their estates. Many of us have already done so for other organizations important to our lives, and Ashby Village clearly will be growing in importance to us all. That’s why I welcomed this opportunity to serve and help create the future.” 




Martin at a development event




 



pat kirkpatrick

the joy of giving

By Karin Evans

When Pat Kirkpatrick was thinking about retiring from her job as a fundraiser for Disability Rights Advocates, she had a chat with an older friend about what to do with the rest of her life. As luck would have it, just after she actually retired, Pat was out jogging when she ran into that same friend. “What are you doing with your life now?” asked the woman. Pat said she was thinking of getting involved with Ashby Village. The friend smiled and said emphatically, “Don’t think about it, do it!” Pat jogged home, picked up the phone, and learned there was an orientation session for Ashby Village volunteers that very weekend. “And so,” she says with a laugh, “I jumped into the deep end and I haven’t regretted it since.”

Her schedule as a volunteer, Pat says, is a bit “eclectic”—ranging from driving members to medical appointments, to hosting living room sessions for those who’ve recently joined, to reading aloud to a member who is visually impaired, to being a member of the Ashby Village Bridge Club. “I take very clever 95-year-old women to bridge games,” she says laughing, “and they just kill me every time with their very nimble minds! “Now I have all these girlfriends and boyfriends who are 90-plus. I get to hear about their lives and it’s a thrill,” she says. “I really like to get to know people. It’s like opening a surprise package each time I respond to a request. I meet someone new and find myself thinking, what an interesting person! They all provide a role model to me as I get older.”

“Volunteering has given me so much back. It’s pure joy!” says Pat. And the Village makes volunteering flexible as well as fun. “I have never seen a more dedicated and committed and charismatic staff, a group of people so devoted to the organization.” In addition to her other volunteer activities, Pat supports Ashby Village with advice about effective strategies for development and fundraising. “I really believe in the mission of Ashby Village,” Pat says. “As so many more people are growing older, we have to think about options that are much more pleasant and exciting than assisted living or nursing homes. “It’s not just coincidental that this movement is taking place in Berkeley, the birthplace of disability rights, where we have a much more vaulted notion of how people with disabilities can spend their lives.”

Pat knows a lot about that vision. Her first job was running a program to train adults with mental disabilities to work in the catering business. “I got the idea from Japan and decided that I wanted to shatter stereotypes and make others aware of what people with cognitive disabilities could do if you only gave them a chance.” The program was resoundingly successful.

Meanwhile, Pat’s husband, Sid Wolinsky, had founded the now-renowned Disability Rights Advocates. Early on, that group won a landmark case against Boston University after the institution had cut out its programs for students with learning disabilities. “We went to trial and won,” says Pat. “I was so thrilled.” She told Sid that Disability Rights Advocates needed a fundraiser if it was going to survive, and Pat went to work in that capacity, a job that lasted until the day two and a half years ago when she retired.

Sid, who will turn 80 on the Fourth of July this year, has been in the trenches for 50-plus years, she says. “He’s a wonderful role model and has been my mentor, too. He’s my major warrior in life. I wish there were more of them around. “Sid and I really have shared the same values, about giving back to the communities in which we live,” adds Pat. And that has meant offering financial support to good causes. “I feel passionately about the Ashby Village Founders’ Fund and I believe in the “It Takes a Village” scholarship. I very much like to dedicate my money to making sure that people who otherwise can’t afford Ashby Village can enjoy the services. I think it’s a very important aspect of the village,” Pat says.

“When my husband turned seventy years and six months old, he was required to take a distribution from his IRA,” she adds. Congress has passed legislation that allows you to choose not to take the money personally and pay taxes on it, but to roll over the amount directly into a 501(c)(3) charity. It’s a great way to make a donation. “We have our favorites,” Pat says. “Every year we give to Ashby Village.” LEARN MORE about IRA Rollovers to charitable organizations.

Whether the gift is of time or money, Pat firmly believes there is deep satisfaction in giving. “I am a strange duck,” she says with a laugh. “I feel very strongly that people get caught up in what they think they need in life, more and more physical items and expenditures and treats for themselves. I’m not saying for a moment that I don’t have a wonderful life and glorious things, but I really think twice about the money I have now and how I want to spend it. “I know I want to spend money on good charities and good groups providing wonderful services and advocacy. It’s the only way our society will be one in which I want to live. Because I am a fundraiser, I get frustrated with people who feel they can’t give. I feel life is much more wonderful when you are giving. I try to do that in my life and hope it rubs off on others!”


 


Pat Kirkpatrick - Photo by Richard Bermack
  

kit vanbuskirk, volunteer and member

the elder culture is coming of age

By Susan Kushinskas

Kit Vanbuskirk will tell you she's not a leader. That's not surprising. The best leaders don't focus on their accomplishments; they're too busy getting things done. Kit's next self-assigned task is attending and reporting on the upcoming Village to Village Network Conference in Seattle this October – with the larger goal of understanding how Ashby Village and the national organization fit into her vision of a vital and redefined "elder culture." The term elder culture was coined by Theodore Roszak, author of The Making of an Elder Culture: Reflections on the Future of America's Most Audacious Generation. In his book, Roszak encouraged the Baby Boomer generation to again take up their youthful ideals of transforming society.

Too often in our society, elders live in poverty, suffering from ill health and isolation – and the stigma of being old and unneeded. To change this, Kit says, "I think that grassroots community is essential." The Village movement could be the answer, she knows, with the idea of a village connoting intimacy and support, with one's home and neighborhood as an anchor. She wants to help Ashby Village's members and volunteers build true villages that create a healthy and fulfilling elderculture. "I have learned that every social movement has been grounded in the community of its members. My theory is that it is necessary," she says.

Kit, a Berkeley resident since the 1970s and a retiree from UC Berkeley, became a member of Ashby Village in the fall of 2014 with a simple wish. Finding herself alone over the holidays, she wanted to invite others who were celebrating solo to her home for a dinner party. She couldn't do this as a volunteer, so she joined as a member, thinking she could use some of the services sooner or later. She and her guests bonded over the festive meal, and Kit realized that the services available to members – rides, help with technology, errands – were only part of what the organization could offer. There was opportunity for connection, intimacy, trust and support; in other words, community.

Exploring Ashby Village's offerings, Kit found that there was no leader in her neighborhood of Clarewood, the Elmwood/Claremont area. So she stepped up. "'I'm trying to interest my neighborhood in an old-fashioned community lifestyle," she says. So far, a core group gets together for coffee or breakfast a few times a month. Yes, it's going slowly, but that's natural, she knows.

In the old days, people were born into their communities and had a whole lifetime to get to know each other. In our mobile, over-scheduled society, it takes the consistent, long-term effort of someone like Kit to forge community. As Kit watched and participated in Ashby Village, she became more curious about its potential to effect the transformation of elderculture that she envisions. Attending the Village to Village Network Conference this October in Seattle will help her get a sense of what the 10-year-old organization has accomplished so far and where it's headed. She wants to know, especially, "Is grassroots community an ingredient in this?" To find out, she'll be listening to the presentations, talking to leaders and networking with others. And, although she might be too modest to say so, she'll also be sharing her vision for Ashby Village and elderculture. Kit says, "It takes a village to raise a child -- and also to care for an elder. Being able to stay in your home isn't the bottom line. It's the symbol for something bigger than that: to change elderculture."


Kit Vanbuskik



 





    






 






 



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